100 fetish Sirens in 18 months... quite an unexpected feat, really! Since our two first were local personalities, we thought it was the best idea to feature another Montreal-based guest. Thusly, it became impossible to go wrong with the exquisite Mistress Anis.
1) What can you share with us about your ethnic background? Have you been living your whole life in Quebec?
I was born in Montreal and I have lived here for my entire life with the exception of a 10-year stint in Paris where I worked and went to school. My parents immigrated here from the West Indies in the late 60's. My family has been racially mixed for generations. It is often easier to describe my mongrel mix as a genetic cocktail made up of all the dredges left behind from slavery, colonialism and centuries of cultural diaspora. That is as detailed as I will get, I never give it all away.
2) From where did your interest for all things fetish came from? Do you remember your first experiences?
I have always been fascinated by kinky/erotic literature (de Sade, Pierre Louys, Eric Stanton), film (Passolini - 120 Days of Sodom, Kenneth Angerís Lucifer Rising), music (The Cramps, 70's porn music) and I will completely absorb myself in anything that I find unorthodox and sexy.
Although I have a huge weakness for stilettos and leather, I don't have any real interest in "fetish" by definition, my real interest is in D/s - Domination and submission dynamics or what many call Power Exchange. I only became aware of my need to be dominant late in life while I reflected on various relationships, both in my professional and intimate life.
For years, I had found myself in stereotypical submissive female roles with stereotypical men. It wasn't until I had struggled through innumerable unhappy relationships that I discovered and understood my true nature as a dominant. I had always been placed in dominant professional positions that required me to exercise leadership and control. Subsequently, I flourished in my professional life but floundered in my personal life as I struggled with my "faux-sub" role.
Later, I began to dabble and explore the world of D/s by frequenting many leather, circuit-party events in the gay community in Montreal. I observed how men top and how they bottom and I found the very raw and animal nature of domination and submission among men to be a huge turn on.
I also discovered that men, even gay men, were instinctively drawn to me to dominate them as if I were put on this earth to do so.
3) So what are Mistress Anis favorite activities, by the way? How would you describe yourself as a dominatrix?
As a dominatrix I love playing with anything that involves verbal and physical humiliation. Feminization is also a favorite. I also love being sensually sadistic, which means I love to tease and torture my subs. I love playing with various degrees of intensity in the way I touch them. For example, I might softly caress a sub for being good and then suddenly slap, pinch or spank him to remind him that he is just an object intended to be used for my own pleasure.
How do I describe myself? I am S&S - Sensually Sadistic. I am also a control freak dominatrix who cannot stand having "subs" or "slaves" do things for me. I can carry my own bags, clean my own house and get around town by damn myself. I'm never comfortable or satisfied when someone insists on doing my chores, no one can do it better than I can!
4) You are a big fan of artist Eric Stanton, arenít you? How much is art still an inspiration to you in your activities?
In general, I am a great lover of all art forms. Visual arts - painting, illustration, street art, etc. are fundamental to my life just as water, air and food. I discovered Eric Stanton's work as a very young child. His high-powered sexual femdom images have been etched into my psyche and will remain archetypes of my sexuality forever.
His work has influenced the way I both appreciate and perceive my Amazon-like body. My fashion-sense has been influenced by him as well. As for my activities, let's just say that when my imagination is on a rare dry-spell, I will turn to an episode of his Stantoons collection to get my sadistic creative juices flowing.
5) In your view, what is the key ingredient for a Mistress to nurture a healthy and durable relationship with a submissive?
My approach to BDSM and D/s relationships goes above and beyond ropes, whips and chains. Submission for me is the total release of ego which is, in essence, the total relinquishing of power and control to a "superior".
I have studied a lot of Eastern philosophy. Buddhism, Zen, Taoism, Hinduism, etc. These forms of thought all embrace the notion of spiritual surrender and acceptance which are, for me, the basis of a healthy and durable D/s relationship. Both the dominant and the submissive must unconditionally surrender to each other to both accept and to nurture their roles as part of the exchange of power.
6) You recently began hosting events with specific themes in a popular Montreal dungeon. What can you tell us about your goals involving such gatherings?
Although I'm just beginning to experiment with this new activity, my ultimate goal is to set up events with very specialized themes to cater to very specialized kinky niche markets.
7) Would you say that thereís been a big evolution in the Montreal fetish/BDSM scene in the past years? And has this been a good thingÖ or a bad thing?
I believe the changes in the BDSM/Fetish scene span across the globe. Internet has, of course, contributed immensely to the "globalization" of the scene. Social networking sites such as Fetlife, have made it possible for kink aficionados to popularize a scene which was, once-upon-a-time, considered a huge taboo that thrived in the darkness of the underground.
I am thankful that I discovered kink from comics and magazines that were sealed in extra-thick plastic covers tucked in the back of a magazine stand of some sleazy "novelty" shop or sex shop on boul. St. Laurent or somewhere in Time Square in the late 70's and early 80's. Those days are gone - kink has gone digital and it is now a mainstream member of the ever-growing global village.
Is this a good or bad thing? I don't know, I'm just happy I remember what it was like when it was hailed as sleaze.
8) What in your view is the biggest misconception form the general public towards the BDSM scene? And what would be the best way to educate people?
The biggest and most obvious misconception I see here in Montreal is that BDSM/Fetish is issued from the glitz of the fashion community. Paradoxically, the other misconception is that it is only about degradation and pain. I'm not sure if there is a best way to educate people on the diverse worlds of BDSM, but I do feel that the organizers who are cashing in on the scene with big "fetish" parties should also include events intended to promote and recognize the importance of BDSM history and culture by presenting relevant films, documentaries, art exhibits and literature that have been major contributors to the scene.
9) Why do you think that some subs specifically seek out Latina dommes, for example (or anyone from any ethnicity)? Do you feel that this preference is even more vital for them than the dommeís areas of expertise itself?
Just as the number of very young dommes has increased in the past few years, there has also been a dramatic increase in the number of ethnic pro-dommes. Although it is not new that the vast majority of Caucasian men are secretly lured by the exoticism of being dominated by a woman of colour, it is very new to see so many of us coming out as dominatrixes. What I find even more intriguing by this new trend is that many of these new dommes come from cultural backgrounds where machismo and misogyny play a huge role in the male/female dynamics. Dommes from or descended from cultures originating in countries such as: Haiti, Cuba, Brazil, Jamaica or from Asia and Latin America are very much in demand these days.
Although most men are initially drawn by domme's exotic physical allure, they are often very surprised by the remarkable and unique talents these dommes possess as powerful and intense Professional Dominatrixes.
Domination comes naturally to these women who, have often, acquired their skills and talents by having lived through poverty, exclusion and by always having to fight harder to get what she wants than all the skinny blonde girls.
Struggle has often been the backbone to forging the strong and independent personalities we are so notorious for.
10) What is you degree of comfort when itís time to model before a camera? Would you eventually be willing to pose with other female models or even try out different themes completely out of the fetish world? (yes we want you as a PinUp soon!)
I love taking self-portraits. I have tons of great photos that I have taken of myself. It is way easier to be myself with myself. As long as I am posing for an experienced and creative photographer, I can do pose for pretty much anything.
11) What do you like to do when itís simply time to relax?
I love to travel, I have been fortunate enough to have traveled extensively throughout the world. I also love to cook - the appreciation of good food and sex to me are inseparable. I also love to practice yoga.
12) Do you have any specific plans concerning your website?
I've set up a link to my blog called: Mistress Anis Exposed. To the disappointment of some, I will not be exposed naked but I will be exposing my thoughts on various subjects and exposing the talent of little-known artists, music that I feel merit public exposure.
13) SoÖ how does it feel to have been elected Fetish Cult Sirensí 100th distinguished guest? :D The honor is all ours, of course!
I am humbled and honored to have been chosen as Miss Fetish Cult Siren #100. I hope that this distinction brings you increased recognition for all that you have done for all the beautiful Sirens you have grouped together in this very unique website.
To top it all off, we also got the chance to do the Pin-Up thing with Anis... as it will be soon revealed in our Pin-Up site!